There’s a fine line between pride and vanity.
There’s nothing beautiful about vanity – it reeks of a self-absorption and an underlying insecurity. But personal pride stems from healthy self-esteem and confidence that is oh-so-attractive.
As Jane Austen writes in In Pride and Prejudice,
Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.”
When it comes to personal pride, good grooming is a must
It’s also a dating non-negotiable.
I’ve gone on more than my share of “blind” dates that made me wish I were vision and/or olfactory-impaired. Dirty hair? Stinky breath? Nasty feet in flipflops? Keep on walking, mister! These hapless schleps might be the nicest guys in the world, but their lack of personal pride screams undatable.
Grooming can be an intimate display of affection.
Just picture a mother loving brushing her little girl’s hair or giving her baby a bath. My cat brothers Eddie and Frankie look so content as they groom each other.
Birds and wildlife don’t give a hoot about what others think.
That is, of course, unless they’re trying to impress a possible mate! I love watching as they preen and groom themselves – even this wood stork knows he’s beautiful!